Adoption Counselling for Adoptive Parents, Birth Parents and Relinquishing Parents
I am a highly innovative and creative therapist, supervisor and trainer. I gained my experience in adoption through my work as a senior manager, training manager, counsellor and project manager at Post-Adoption Centre (PAC) www.postadoptioncentre.org.uk.
In addition I have provided therapeutic support to all parties to adoption in my private practice and am a founder member and Associate of ASART (Adoption Support Agency of Registered Therapists) www.adoptioncounselling.com. I am able to draw on a wide range of counselling and therapy approaches, and a great deal of experience and expertise, when I work with you.
As an Adoptive Parent you (and your partner) may come to see me for a variety of reasons:
- You've got your child(ren) and now you would like help with attachment and bonding issues
- You'd like help with parenting skills
- You'd like to know what to do when your adopted child: soils, wets, lies, steals
- You're worried about a disruption
- You think you have the post-placement blues
- You can't do a thing with your adopted teenager!
- You don't know how to tell your child s/he is adopted
- You want help thinking about how to tell your adopted child their life story
- This list is by no mean exhaustive!
I am registered to work with parents and children and so I will work with you in a variety of ways:
- Parents and child together (a brief family therapeutic intervention)
- Mum (or Dad) and child together (short or long term) – usually in 1 hour sessions and often incorporating Theraplay, an attachment based therapeutic intervention.
- I will work with you on a 1:1 basis, long or short term, usually in weekly or bi-weekly sessions.
- I will work with couples utilizing Attachment Communication Training (ACT) when relationships are under stress.
As a birth parent you are most likely to come to see me around issues of grief, loss, and pre or post reunion. Being reunited with the birth child who has been adopted may trigger all kinds of feelings you thought you would never experience again – these can be overwhelming and a supportive ear may make all the difference. You may find it tremendously helpful talking face to face to someone who knows these feelings and can validate them. You may also be concerned about genetic sexual attraction (gsa) as a reunion is often described as being like a love affair.
If you are a relinquishing parent you may be in a great deal of pain through the grief and loss of your child(ren), confused and frightened. You may find reaching out to someone who knows these feelings and can provide you with support may be very helpful.